Each video is ranked out of six (6) possible points based on six (6) criteria that are worth fifteen (15) points each, for a total of ninety (90) possible points. Analyses and descriptions are provided by a group of individuals that self-identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*, Queer, or Ally. For more information on our grading process, descriptions, and analyses, please visit our Rubric Page.

 

1. It Gets Better- borntoplay2009 [5.60]

Queer description: A member of the LGBTQ community is trying to communicate to others that they should love themselves for who they are. She seemed very genuine in her message and that she really cared.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 15
Relatable: 15
Point of View: 13
Honesty: 13
Quality: 14
Effectiveness: 14

Analysis

Queer: We liked how honest she was when she admitted that there was still hate and negativity in the world, and her way to deal with it was to focus on the good times, because that is very good advice. She was also extremely attractive.

Gay:We loved how she made it a point to state that she didn't know us, but knew people like us and she loved them. We also felt it was refreshing that she focused on making the best of your life even through there’s hate that LGBTQ youth face in high school.

View on YouTube: http://youtu.be/1r6TIanpsUw

Running time: 1:42

 

2. An Important Message From Ellen About Bullying [5.53]

Lesbian Analysis: Ellen gets emotional as she expresses the need for action against the gay teen suicide epidemic. She lists ways for youth to find a way out through counseling or helpful organizations.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 13
Relatable: 13
Point of View: 12
Honesty: 15
Quality: 15
Effectiveness: 15

Analysis

Queer: I liked how genuine and emotional she was, and how she wasn't afraid to do it on national television where everyone could see, and we felt like she actually cared about the kids and the people she was addressing.

Lesbian: The professionalism was more effective than the generic youtube video.

I liked the emotion that was visible in her face and voice, and her immensely

caring attitude towards youth.

View on YouTube: http://youtu.be/aBUMugqDRHg

Running time: 1:46

 

3. It Gets Better- Jenn and Erika [5.46]

Lesbian description: A lesbian couple explain how they were able to be their true selves after high school, find a supportive environment, and make a family.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 14
Relatable: 14
Point of View: 15
Honesty: 12
Quality: 13
Effectiveness: 14

Analysis

Queer: We liked that they talked a lot about their lives before and after they met. The wedding pictures were precious and they were absolutely adorable. They seemed really happy and we liked how they showed their life was happy and normal.

Gay: We liked how the video was very light-hearted, but still powerful in that way.

The comical aspect of the video really highlighted that LGBTQ people are really

just like everyone else.

View on YouTube: http://youtu.be/TSiev5uYCa4

Running Time: 5:53

 

4. Shara Dae (I’m From Philadelphia, PA) -True Lesbian Stories [5.43]

Lesbian Description: A lesbian from Philadelphia shares a story of how she became comfortable with calling herself a “lesbian” and how she showed her neighbors her pride.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 15
Relatable: 11
Point of View: 13
Honesty: 15
Quality: 13.5
Effectiveness: 14

Analysis

Gay: I liked the message from her story. It took me a while as well to be proud of being gay, thus her message can inspire other kids to be proud of who she is.

Queer: We think that the video was absolutely amazing because her story was so real and we both could really relate to it because we both had similar reactions when we were asked to identify in this group, actually.

View on YouTube: http://youtu.be/uZ-Kk8ZNjCo

Running Time: 4:57

 

5. Finding Joy In Difference- New York Times Coming Out Stories [5.23]

Description

Queer:A girl is talking about falling in love with her partner and how she enjoyed being different. She wasn't afraid to be with her after she realized that she was in love.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 14
Relatable: 10
Point of View: 12.5
Honesty: 15
Quality: 13.5
Effectiveness: 13.5

 

Analyses

Ally:We liked how down to earth the video was and how they spoke on the things that happened to them; all that they were able to overcome and become more comfortable with who they are.

Lesbian:I liked that it showed someone's life who was still in high school. She was honest about her life and her fears, and said how she overcame them.

 

Watch on New York Times Online: http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2011/05/23/us/20110523-coming-out.html#story/elsie_sethi

Running Time: 2:32

 

6. Gaining Confidence From God- New York Times Coming Out Stories [5.06]

Description

Queer:A Christian girl talks about accepting her sexuality while embracing her religion. She talked about how she feels close to her God and that is all that matters to her.

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 11
Relatable: 12
Point of View: 10.5
Honesty: 15
Quality: 13
Effectiveness: 14

Analyses

Ally: We liked how in the video she was able to get accepted by her family and her church for being a lesbian teenager.

Lesbian: I really thought it was a powerful story coming from a religious perspective, which is important. It proves that it is possible to be very religious and gay, and still have support.

 

Watch on New York Times Online: http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2011/05/23/us/20110523-coming-out.html#story/kailey_jeanne_cox

Running Time: 2:50

 

7. It Gets Better - Jane & Lara [4.83]

Description

Lesbian:A happy couple recounts their journey and how they are much better off now than in high school. While they hid their true selves in high school due to feelings of shame, they found that there is a real community out there that celebrates them for who they are.

 

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 14
Relatable: 11
Point of View: 11
Honesty: 15
Quality: 10
Effectiveness: 11.5

Analyses

Queer: We liked that her partner was there even though she wasn't the famous one. It showed that she cared more about the message than her status. We liked when they talked about their pasts because it made it seem more real.

Gay: We liked that they did the video as a couple because it showed first had that you can find someone and not be feel so alone. Their personal anecdotes also really helped because they can also be really helpful to teens who are in similar situations.

 

Watch on YouTube: http://youtu.be/4BGtS_sedUk

Running Time: 3:19

 

8. Crystal Cornish (I’m From Washington, D.C.) -True Lesbian Stories [4.76]

Description

Gay:In this video a girl describes how being outed, to her mother, by an ex. Her outing strained their mother-daughter relationship, but also bettered their communication with each other.

 

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 12
Relatable: 12
Point of View: 11
Honesty: 14.5
Quality: 12
Effectiveness: 10

Analyses

Gay: I liked that I could relate to her story. Having going through a similar experience with coming out to my mother, it was nice to see how someone else dealt with that situation.

Lesbian: I liked how it included her outing story and how her mother reacted. It was not the most moving or interesting, but it was a true story so it was worth hearing.

 

Watch on YouTube: http://youtu.be/4F9PnzaYjek

Running Time: 2:42

 

9. Coming Out To Your Entire Class At Once. (I’m From Needham, MA. by lauren) -True Lesbian Stories [4.73]

Description

Ally:The video was about a girl who stood up and came out to her entire high school. The girl mentioned how instead of her school being against her they welcomed her with a standing ovation.

 

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 14
Relatable: 9
Point of View: 11
Honesty: 15
Quality: 12
Effectiveness: 10

Analyses

Lesbian: I liked how it showed the reversal of expectations for the high school, and how it's possible for high schools to be really supportive.

Queer: There didn't seem to be a purpose to the video, seeing as the event itself was not commonplace. It was nice to witness acceptance, but it isn't regionally relatable.

 

Watch on YouTube: http://youtu.be/LiO8G7D7gFM

Running Time: 3:00

 

10. It Gets Better Project - A Poem Spoken by Lesbian Poet, Annabel Lee from the Seaside [4.60]

Description

Lesbian:A girl recounts her experience as a lesbian through spoken word. She tells how her life changed as she left home and could take more control over how she spent her time.

 

Ranking Breakdown:
Uplifting: 12.5
Relatable: 10.5
Point of View: 13
Honesty: 12
Quality: 10
Effectiveness: 11

Analyses

Queer: Her message was lost in unclear wording and disorganized tangents. She didn't seem enthusiastic with her tone or reading her poem. Nicole didn't like the poem at all and couldn't relate because she seemed demanding and her message was way too convoluted. She tried to hard to be artistic and creative and it really fell short.

Lesbian: I found her language to be extreme, but honest and effective. She tells her own story in a powerful way. However, she gives the impression that she abandoned her whole former life, and never mentioned trying to live happily without losing her family.

 

Watch on YouTube: http://youtu.be/ytRWaiKtTMc

Running Time: 5:22

 

Honorable Mention:

It Gets Better, Rural Dykes! [3.96]

Uplifting: 9.5
Relatable: 7
Point of View: 9.5
Honesty: 13.5
Quality: 10
Effectiveness: 10

 

Watch on YouTube: http://youtu.be/jvvfA4eT5ZQ

Running Time: 3:25

 

Description & Analysis

Lesbian:A "rural dyke" gives her experiences outside of the city. She gives a different perspective on coming out, and is very honest about what she went through and how she is now very happy with her life.